TCCA CONFERENCE (Texas Child Care Administrators Conference)2024

Chenita Tayborn

Calandra Tapia

On October 1st, I had the incredible honor of standing alongside Calandra Tapia as co-presenters at the TCCA Conference in Round Rock, Texas. It was truly a great pleasure to work with her—she brought such ease, insight, and wisdom to our time together, making the entire day flow effortlessly. The presentation, titled “Balance and Blossom: Nurturing the Well-being of Foster and Adoptive Parents,” was deeply personal to both of us, rooted in real-life experiences, struggles, and triumphs.

Our session was more than just informative; it was engaging, heartfelt, and genuine. We spoke from a place of truth, sharing not just knowledge but the raw emotions and challenges that come with being both foster and adoptive parents. Calandra, with her background as a former CPS worker, case manager, foster mom, and devoted adoptive mother, brought such a profound perspective to the conversation. Her story is one of resilience and compassion, and it was an honor to witness her passion for this work firsthand.

As a foster and adoptive mom myself, I’ve always been open about my own struggles with mental health. It’s not easy, and there are days when it feels like the weight of the world is too much to carry. But through this journey, I’ve learned there is strength in vulnerability. To be able to stand up and represent other moms who quietly battle these same struggles was incredibly humbling. We are not alone, even when it feels like we are.

Motherhood, particularly when caring for children who have experienced trauma, is both a beautiful and demanding path. I’ve come to understand that nurturing my own mental and emotional well-being is as crucial as nurturing the children in my care. It’s okay to have hard days. It’s okay to admit when we need a break, when we’re not okay. Our struggles don’t define us; they highlight just how resilient we are.

To every mom out there, especially those navigating similar journeys, I want to remind you that you are seen, you are enough, and you are not alone. It’s okay to ask for help, to take a step back when needed, and to give yourself grace. We are doing the best we can, and that, in itself, is more than enough.

-Chenita Tayborn